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How to retrieve my belongings from my mother

lamache Posted messages 5 Status Member -  
Barbie20f80 Posted messages 1 Status Member -
Hello, I come here to ask for information. It has been since June 26, 2013, that I have been in a civil partnership with my partner. I’m 19 years old and I no longer live with my mother. I want to retrieve my belongings, but she is forbidding me. I have my bed, a wardrobe, clothes, and personal belongings. What can I do to go get them?
Sincerely

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    Bruce Willix Posted messages 12376 Registration date   Status Contributor Last intervention   2 639
     
    Nothing: you are of legal age and emancipated. In terms of furniture, possession is worth title, so what is in your mother's house belongs to her unless you have a title of ownership.

    Another option: make peace with your mother.

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  2. lamache Posted messages 5 Status Member
     
    After the furniture, it was my father who paid for them, so they are in his name and not in my mother's name. With my mother, it's not possible to make peace or to discuss; she is stubborn and pig-headed.
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    1. Bruce Willix Posted messages 12376 Registration date   Status Contributor Last intervention   2 639
       
      I would be very surprised if there is a certificate of ownership for a table or a chair, but if you find one, good for you :D Otherwise, unfortunately, those pieces of furniture belong to her because they are in her home. 

      With my mother, it's impossible to make peace or discuss; she is stubborn and hard-headed.
      It's clear that by labeling her as stubborn and hard-headed, you probably won't find any common ground. I imagine that all the other people involved in the story are, on the contrary, very open and flexible, and no one is holding their ground except your mother?

      Why doesn't she want to give them back to you? Does she know how to put on your clothes, or is it just to annoy you?
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      1. lamache Posted messages 5 Status Member > Bruce Willix Posted messages 12376 Registration date   Status Contributor Last intervention  
         
        My father always keeps the bills, it's clear you don't know him at all, how is that?
        She doesn't want to return my things because I'm in a civil partnership, so I want to live my life with my partner, and we are going to get married, but she doesn't accept it. Let me tell you what the bed is for: it is used to let her dog named Chocolate, a Labrador, sleep on it, while she has two others who sleep outside. She is committing animal and human abuse.
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    2. Bruce Willix Posted messages 12376 Registration date   Status Contributor Last intervention   2 639
        
      you can tell that you don't know her at all

      Indeed, I don't know your mother, but if she mistreats animals or humans, you have leverage for your negotiation.


      Best regards,
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    3. lamache Posted messages 5 Status Member
       
      Well, for the animals, I've already started a procedure with the animal shelter; they have already removed the thinnest one, and I learned that she has been adopted by a good family with children. Now they are going to remove the male, who is also thin, and for those who believe it for even a second, I have the papers to prove it.
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  3. astuces72 Posted messages 2146 Registration date   Status Member Last intervention   1 669
     
    Hi

    And what does it have to do with the forum?

    Human abuse... Police, gendarmerie...

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    1. astuces72 Posted messages 2146 Registration date   Status Member Last intervention   1 669
       
      I can't believe it for a second!
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    2. lamache Posted messages 5 Status Member
       
      Well, she was a childminder, so she had a childcare license, but she had it revoked because she forced all the children to eat. I'm not saying this without knowing, because I have proof, and she has a criminal record for that.
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    3. Barbie20f80 Posted messages 1 Status Member
       
      Hello, you’re not the only one in this situation. My partner left his mother’s house because she wouldn’t accept me. Personally, I searched everywhere; he couldn’t retrieve anything. His mother was telling him everything was packed in boxes, while his sister was saying that wasn’t true, with proof in photos she sent us. We went to the police, and they told us they wouldn’t intervene in this matter. However, his mother told him to let her know if he was coming, but they must have plotted something! The police said to go over there, and if there’s a problem, to call them, but they would only come an hour later!!!!! We called a lawyer and hired a bailiff; hopefully, it will work.
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