Comment désactiver le auto-play d'une vidéo ?

<object width="560" height="412" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" data=".videos/player.swf">
    <param name="movie" value=".videos/player.swf" />
    <param name="codebase" value="http://fpdownload2.macromedia.com/get/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=8,0,0,0"/>
    <param name="width" value="560"/>
    <param name="height" value="412"/>
    <param name="quality" value="high"/>
    <param name="align" value="middle"/>
    <param name="play" value="false"/>
    <param name="loop" value="true"/>

    <param name="wmode" value="transparent"/>
    <param name="devicefont" value="false"/>
    <param name="bgcolor" value="#2e2e2e"/>
    <param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"/>
    <param name="allowScriptAccess" value="sameDomain"/>

    <param name="flashvars" value="forcewidth=560&forceheight=387&skin=black&fullscreenbutton=on&infobutton=on&videopath=https://www.monsite.net to fit&buffersize=2&infotext=3dMavideo"/>
    <embed src=".videos/player.swf" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"   
        width="560" 
        height="412"
        wmode="transparent"
        allowFullScreen="true"
        flashvars="forcewidth=560&forceheight=387&skin=black&fullscreenbutton=on&infobutton=on&videopath=https://www.monsite.net to fit&buffersize=2&infotext=3dMavideo" >
    </embed>
</object>